Arguments aren’t about facts. They’re about emotions — your feelings — so make statements about your self.

4. DO keep in mind that fights are about feelings, perhaps not facts.

“You always do [awful thing] each time we [activity] and I’m tired of it!”

“You worry about [person, spot, or thing] more than you worry about me personally!”

“You don’t give a shit about [person, spot, or thing]!”

They are maybe not facts. They are your emotions, your perceptions. Your perception as a person is trained from an incredible number of several years of development to identify causation and pattern. Read more